As the probable time of the wedding approached, the bride and her sisters, cousins, and friends would wait together each evening in anticipation of the groom’s arrival. It was customary for the groom to arrive suddenly, often late at night. 13 The groom and his friends would carry the bride through the streets to her new home in a jubilant procession accompanied by music, torches, and well-wishers. 14 At the wedding house, the bride and groom would each be dressed in white wedding garments, the color denoting purity. 15 Then they would meet under the wedding canopy, which symbolized God’s presence blessing their union.
Also, I know many people have already remarked on David’s remark, so I’ll just say that you are being really simple-minded in thinking that people should just “learn to interact” in a new culture. You say yourself that you don’t understand “different cultural perspectives” because you can’t, so why do you expect it easier for someone else coming to America to understand ours? Many people *do* try to understand American culture, but due to lack of resources, and the contempt for their efforts expressed by people such as David, they don’t succeed or find it easier not to adapt .
As community builders, it helps to develop relationships with parents. If a young person sees her parents have relationships with people from the mainstream culture, it can help her feel that their family is accepted. It supports the teen in being more connected to her family and her community--and also, both relationships are critical protective factors for drug and alcohol abuse and other dangerous behaviors. In addition, in building relationships with parents, we develop lines of communication, so when conflicts arise, they can be more easily resolved.